What does it mean when my boyfriend doesn’t want to talk about his ex?

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What does it mean when my boyfriend doesn’t want to talk about his ex?

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MerryLee20 3 months 2 Answers 63 views 0

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  1. There’s a right time and reason to talk about past relationships, and even then, there are still boundaries.

    First, how far along are you in the relationship? If it’s too early, he might be uncomfortable discussing personal things with you. If he trusts you enough, he will open up in his own time.

    Second, talking about the past opens up old wounds and causes unnecessary drama. Most guys don’t like talking about the past, especially if it was utterly painful. What are your reasons for asking anyway? Is it just plain curiosity, or insecurity? As a rule of thumb, if you can’t handle the answer, just don’t ask.

    Third, there’s usually no point talking about the past, unless there are mistakes you’d both want to avoid or you are interested in knowing your partner’s likes and dislikes. Asking him if he loved his ex more, how his family liked his ex, or how pretty she was will never lead to a healthy conversation.

    And unless he asks about your past, don’t talk about it either. If you open up without him asking, you’ll expect him to do the same, which is unfair to him. For more tips on how to talk to your partner properly, visit https://www.relationshipcounsellinguk.com/sussex/.

  2. There’s a right time and reason to talk about past relationships, and even then, there are still boundaries.

    First, how far along are you in the relationship? If it’s too early, he might be uncomfortable discussing personal things with you. If he trusts you enough, he will open up in his own time.

    Second, talking about the past opens up old wounds and causes unnecessary drama. Most guys don’t like talking about the past, especially if it was utterly painful. What are your reasons for asking anyway? Is it just plain curiosity, or insecurity? As a rule of thumb, if you can’t handle the answer, just don’t ask.

    Third, there’s usually no point talking about the past, unless there are mistakes you’d both want to avoid or you are interested in knowing your partner’s likes and dislikes. Asking him if he loved his ex more, how his family liked his ex, or how pretty she was will never lead to a healthy conversation.

    And unless he asks about your past, don’t talk about it either. If you open up without him asking, you’ll expect him to do the same, which is unfair to him. For more tips on how to talk to your partner properly, visit RelationshipCounsellingUK.com.

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